Resentful? Recommend a change.

Resentful about something? Do something.

Resentment is a poisonous emotion which combines intense anger on the inside while trying to present calmly on the outside. Resentment can be self-destructive for your health and damaging to your relationships when it persists.

If you're feeling resentment about something, do something. Let me tell you about Ron. I'm calling him Ron because that's his name.

We were working on a project with colleagues on 3 continents. Daily at 7amET, we had a call with the global team to align on priorities and needs.

Ron joined every morning as if someone had peed on his corn flakes. He was grumpy and impatient with people. He seemed rude and annoyed with everything. His sour mood ruined our moods.

I called Ron to ask him, "What's up, with you, dude?" (I think I did say "dude.")

He shared he was training for a marathon, and these early morning calls were interfering with his ability to train. We decided to change the daily calls where only 2 would be earlier ET time. This was a more fair way to balance the time zone impacts across the team.

Ron had resented our call times, and that resentment impacted the team. AND our solution was so easy to implement (we should have thought of it sooner). AND everyone won.

If you have resentment, take action. Recommend a change. A coach can help.